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Farrah’s Decision

farrah-fawcettAfter the release of Farrah’s Story last Friday, the blog and gossip world is alive with the questions – When Farrah was first diagnosed with anal cancer did she sign her death warrant when she refused chemo?  Did she put vanity over her health regarding her decisions to keep her signature locks and refusing surgery? Surgery would have left her with a colonoscopy bag. 

Maybe she did, and I will go on record stating that it was her decision to do so.  I’m sure that she knew what the risks were, but inadvertently thought that the outcome would be “different” for her..  That she would beat the odds.  Farrah will pay the ultimate price for her decisions…her life, but who’s to say the outcome would be any different if she made different decisions.  We can’t go through life second guessing ourselves, our first guesses at what to do are difficult enough.  I’m sure we all would do some things differently if given the chance.  I sincerely hope that the public doesn’t turn on Farrah at her time of need because of this. 

Having suffered from breast cancer myself, the choices you have to make can be very scary.  Oncologists push chemo at patients regardless of the consequences.  Their goal is to save a life regardless of the quality.  I have personally seen chemo treatments kill people in long drawn out ways.  Again this is a personal choice or quantity of life over quality of life.  I would never beseech anyone for making that decision.   I, myself, believe in quality of life over quantity, once again a personal decision.

The bigger questions here is why does society judge people on their appearances?  Getting a few gray hairs? No problem he’s some hair color.   Showing a few wrinkles? No problem here’s some botox.   Overweight? Take these pills.  A colonoscopy bag? No Way.   I’ve heard a few comments from women who say they would have made the exact decisions that Farah did.  Beauty at all cost.

We are interested in hearing your thoughts on this subject.  Click on “comments” below to leave your opinions.

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May 20, 2009 - Posted by | Celebrity Gossip, Uncategorized | , , , ,

3 Comments »

  1. These are deeply personal decisions, and whatever her reasons may have been and whether or not the outcome might have been different, we’ll never know. I probably would have opted for surgery and chemo, but then again I don’t have her hair and body — so I can’t really know.

    If people would tend to their own lives instead of constantly speculating about other’s, they’d probably have their hands full. But then again, our blogs would go away… Can’t have that!!

    Comment by trickeybusiness | May 22, 2009 | Reply

  2. As a RN that has seen patients fight till they did not have any fight left in them, while other come in here options and we never hear from them again. I agree that when all is said and done it is the patient’s right to refuse or get treatment. I have seen patients that are so tired and worn out but yet they keep going for their families and not because they want to. I have seen patient that come in and just don’t want to do it. Yes Oncologist do push chemo, just like another dr would push antibiotics that a patient needed. And yes chemo can be hard on a body, but the drugs have come a long way and we can control most of the things that people fear most from treatment. All I would recommend to people before the say absolutely NO. To go see a Oncologist and get his/her recommendations and get all the facts. Not just the ones you or your family found on the internet. Just because 1 patient had all the side effects and a really bad experence does not mean that you will to.

    Comment by Onc_RN | June 27, 2009 | Reply

  3. hOW DO YOU KNOW SHE SAID NO TO CHEMO BECAUSE SHE WOULD LOSE HER HAIR? LET ME JUST SAY YOU SOUND JELOUS AND SHE DID LOSE HER BATTLE WITH CANCER. I AM SORRY FOR YOU BUT CHEMO IS TOUGH I, WATCHED SOMEONE I,LOVE DEARLY SUFFER VERY BADLY.NO MATTER WHAT YOU GET SIDE EFFECTS, PEOPLE LOSE THEIR HAIR WEIGHT AND EVENTULLY THEIR LIVES. HAD I, KNOW THEN WHAT I, KNOW NOW I, WOULD JUST LIKE MY FAMILY MEMBER WHO HAD IT SAY SCREW CHEMO. IT’S ABOUT QUALITY NOT QUANITY AFTER ALL CHEMO IS JUST A BAND AID.

    Comment by JAIME | June 28, 2009 | Reply


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